With the current planetary shift, it seems it is much easier for myself and others I know to contact their emotions–this also means that it is more difficult to suppress what we are feeling–thus the expression of anger is more common–even though not politically or spiritually correct. If we are not solid in our own knowing, this can throw us off.
For what I am referring to see this article by Michelle Marchildon (yoga teacher & soccer mom; Boulder, CO): Anger Management Does Not Exist
Perhaps if we were more comfortable expressing and not suppressing anger, we would stay current so that when something requires its expression we did not bring all our past unexpressed anger up and dump it on the present situation… Thus it is my practice to try to be aware of any little things that hook me into anger and express it on the spot…(I am not always good at this, sometimes it gets messy) example: “When you do that I feel really angry.” Depending on the person, I may fully express the anger in their presence or I may chose to leave and do it in an appropriate place and time. If you read Eat Pray Love, remember the scene in the book where the Italian guy said Americans are very dangerous because they suppress and do not express their anger. (this didn’t make it to the movie, wonder why…)
When I shared this article with one of my clients she sent me this comment:
Thanks Richard. It is so fascinating the shaming that goes on around anger, which just adds another level of complexity to the emotion. It is surprising other parents would say things like “you are a yogi” and “it is harmless fun” instead of having compassion for another parent with a sick child. It sounds like she overlooked it a few times and by the 3rd time Mama bear came out full force! I think if we could always have an honest expression of anger it would lose its intensity and scariness. I had dinner with a Greek friend recently who talked about how fighting openly was encouraged in their household. What a concept. She mentioned she has a hard time understanding people who are not open about their irritations and opinions. “so WASPY.” I had to laugh at the truth of her statement. I told her in most households anger is not allowed and as adults we do whatever we can to avoid it. It came up because a friend approached her about some things she was upset about and it was extremely an emotional experience (lots of tears) for her, but my Greek friend was unaffected. She told this person, “you can be angry with me in any way you choose and I will still be your friend.” This was powerful and deepened their friendship.
To quote from the article, “there are three Goddesses: Saraswati, who stands for intelligence and culture, Lakshmi who has beauty and wealth and Kali who is kind of mean. But listen carefully: It is Kali who is the fierce protector, who fights off demons and who Shiva relies on when he can’t get the job done on his own. It is Kali who saves the world; Lakshmi is busy brushing her hair.” or practicing downward dog???